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Link to original post: [drupal=5462]People are too obsessed with finding a romantic partner[/drupal]
I read stuff on Reddit, Facebook, and other social networking sites and I often see stuff like "I'm so lonely because I have no woman in my life" or some other kind of statement revolving around being upset/depressed/lonely because they have no partner.
However, I feel that's the wrong way to go about yourself. While I don't know enough about these people to assert I know anything about their life, you'd be amazed how similar peoples' lives are in regards to specific qualities of life when they're subscribed to some of the same sub-reddits. I'm going to take a guess that these people who are lonely because they don't have a partner ALSO don't really have that many friends.
I was, for a while, a bit depressed because I was worried I'd never find a partner, settle down, have kids, and do the whole shebang. I came to a realization that there's more to life than doing what everyone else does and getting married young and having kids. Sure, you might be missing out on romantic love, but the (excuse me if I start to sound a bit cheesy) love you give and receive to other people in your life, your friends for example, can be just as powerful as romantic love if you let it.
I don't have many friends, and I have even fewer close friends. But for the first time in my life since I was in elementary school, I can say I have a best friend again. It's been 10 years since I've had a friend I'd trust with my life, but I have one now. We don't hang out much outside of work, but he's my best friend and I love him. I would feel confident putting my life in his hands. And all my other friends, the few of them at least, I know they appreciate who I am and get joy out of who I am and I get joy out of who they are. For that, I love them.
When I feel lonely for not having a partner in my life, I quickly smack myself out of it by remembering I do have people I love and people who love me in life and I carry on with my day content with that fact.
Just a quick thought I had when I was browsing the web.
I read stuff on Reddit, Facebook, and other social networking sites and I often see stuff like "I'm so lonely because I have no woman in my life" or some other kind of statement revolving around being upset/depressed/lonely because they have no partner.
However, I feel that's the wrong way to go about yourself. While I don't know enough about these people to assert I know anything about their life, you'd be amazed how similar peoples' lives are in regards to specific qualities of life when they're subscribed to some of the same sub-reddits. I'm going to take a guess that these people who are lonely because they don't have a partner ALSO don't really have that many friends.
I was, for a while, a bit depressed because I was worried I'd never find a partner, settle down, have kids, and do the whole shebang. I came to a realization that there's more to life than doing what everyone else does and getting married young and having kids. Sure, you might be missing out on romantic love, but the (excuse me if I start to sound a bit cheesy) love you give and receive to other people in your life, your friends for example, can be just as powerful as romantic love if you let it.
I don't have many friends, and I have even fewer close friends. But for the first time in my life since I was in elementary school, I can say I have a best friend again. It's been 10 years since I've had a friend I'd trust with my life, but I have one now. We don't hang out much outside of work, but he's my best friend and I love him. I would feel confident putting my life in his hands. And all my other friends, the few of them at least, I know they appreciate who I am and get joy out of who I am and I get joy out of who they are. For that, I love them.
When I feel lonely for not having a partner in my life, I quickly smack myself out of it by remembering I do have people I love and people who love me in life and I carry on with my day content with that fact.
Just a quick thought I had when I was browsing the web.