Pelikinesis
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I've been lurking in the User Blogs section recently and come across a few blogs about personal issues and asking for advice and whatnot.
Now I want one.
I moved in with a friend I've known since Kindergarten in an apartment last quarter. We're both known for being moody; in his case it's that he simply refuses to feel neutral towards anything and looks at things in either an extremely positive or negative light, and I'm your standard bundle of angry anti-social recidivist. I figured the "known each other since Kindergarten" and the "2 moody guys" facts would kind of balance out, but another friend recently revealed to me that he's been holding some animosity towards me, something she found out on New Years.
The main complaints seem to be that I don't do enough housework, I don't interact much with him, and my room is always messy. I'm not going to list my counterarguments here, but I totally have them. Somewhere.
The main thing I noticed after I came up with my counterarguments is that most of the issues revolve around something I hadn't counted on. No, not X-factor. His girlfriend.
I don't know her that well. Other than the fact that she has no inside voice, I don't really have any personal issue with her. It's just the fact that she's THERE. I didn't really think too much into what I expected the roommate dynamic between my friend and I would be like, but I certainly didn't factor his girlfriend practically living with us. Which she does, at times.
I've woken up some mornings, having to take a wicked piss or an unholy dump, and I have to wait. Not for my friend who shares in the monthly payments. He's actually working early mornings, which is another reason I should never have to deal with this kind of problem.
Another thing. I'm not comfortable around couples if I'm essentially third-wheeling them. So if they're both in the apartment, I stay in my room. The problem? There are times I think she's not in the apartment BUT SHE IS (yeah, she has no inside voice, I remember that. I honestly don't know how this happens.) and then I just go back in my room.
So the reason I don't interact much with him is because I assume at all times that his girlfriend in there, which means that (A) he has someone else to talk to and (b)I'm in my room.
Anyways, as my third-party friend told me this she mentioned that she had asked her boyfriend (another mutual friend) to be the mediator between me and my roommate so that we can clear the air. He hasn't done that. I think he's a good mediator, and I understand why he might be necessary as both me and my roommate are predisposed to getting good and pissed. But since he hasn't done that yet, my main question is whether or not I should just talk with my roommate one-on-one.
Suggestions?
I've been lurking in the User Blogs section recently and come across a few blogs about personal issues and asking for advice and whatnot.
Now I want one.
I moved in with a friend I've known since Kindergarten in an apartment last quarter. We're both known for being moody; in his case it's that he simply refuses to feel neutral towards anything and looks at things in either an extremely positive or negative light, and I'm your standard bundle of angry anti-social recidivist. I figured the "known each other since Kindergarten" and the "2 moody guys" facts would kind of balance out, but another friend recently revealed to me that he's been holding some animosity towards me, something she found out on New Years.
The main complaints seem to be that I don't do enough housework, I don't interact much with him, and my room is always messy. I'm not going to list my counterarguments here, but I totally have them. Somewhere.
The main thing I noticed after I came up with my counterarguments is that most of the issues revolve around something I hadn't counted on. No, not X-factor. His girlfriend.
I don't know her that well. Other than the fact that she has no inside voice, I don't really have any personal issue with her. It's just the fact that she's THERE. I didn't really think too much into what I expected the roommate dynamic between my friend and I would be like, but I certainly didn't factor his girlfriend practically living with us. Which she does, at times.
I've woken up some mornings, having to take a wicked piss or an unholy dump, and I have to wait. Not for my friend who shares in the monthly payments. He's actually working early mornings, which is another reason I should never have to deal with this kind of problem.
Another thing. I'm not comfortable around couples if I'm essentially third-wheeling them. So if they're both in the apartment, I stay in my room. The problem? There are times I think she's not in the apartment BUT SHE IS (yeah, she has no inside voice, I remember that. I honestly don't know how this happens.) and then I just go back in my room.
So the reason I don't interact much with him is because I assume at all times that his girlfriend in there, which means that (A) he has someone else to talk to and (b)I'm in my room.
Anyways, as my third-party friend told me this she mentioned that she had asked her boyfriend (another mutual friend) to be the mediator between me and my roommate so that we can clear the air. He hasn't done that. I think he's a good mediator, and I understand why he might be necessary as both me and my roommate are predisposed to getting good and pissed. But since he hasn't done that yet, my main question is whether or not I should just talk with my roommate one-on-one.
Suggestions?
