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Ok so this thread is for anyone who is having problems with a friend. Even if you are the friend being ignored by another...share your story here.
As for me, I am currently having a problem with one particular close friend of mine. Ok so we were at my house yesterday having lunch and he was telling me about this girl he randomly gave his number to. She also added him on Facebook out of nowhere. Anyway, he asked me for my input. So I asked him questions like "do you know here last name?" "Do you know what school she went to?" "What was her past relationships like," you know questions like that. He said that he only spoke with her for like 5 minutes and he had no idea about her. He did she was cute and that he was considering having a little "fun" with her.
I told him he's dumb for even considering that. I never understood how guys simply jump into things like this, without knowing any kind of background about this girl. I basically explained to him that I think it's wrong, and not exactly the smartest thing to do. Now keep in mind this was only my opinion. I didn't care if he argued/disagreed with me. Its just that me personally, I'd prefer to get to know the girl before jumping into the intimate side. To my shock he goes on for about 10-15 minutes actually supporting my point. In a nutshell, he was saying I was right.
So then his phone rings and its one of his ace boys. I didn't know who this guy was, but he switched right up. My friend's speech changed, and body language changed. This wasn't a problem, because I understand we all act a little differently around certain people. But here is where things get heated. It caught my ear but he started saying stuff like "oh yeah I'm a get at this chick, see what she's like. I'm a show her a good time." The conversation was for about 10 minutes. This is where I got kind of irritated. Ten minutes before the call he was telling me how he believed in waiting for the right one and guys shouldn't treat girls like meat.He sounded so convincing sincere about his words. Then he totally says the opposite when talking with this dude, and he meant every word. I know he did. Also, the guy on the phone told my friend this girl has been around the block a few times, and he's still considering having a little "fun" with her. So stupid.
Here's my overall point, I don't care if your speech or body language changes from crowd to crowd. But in my eyes, the one thing that should remain the same, regardless of where you are, is your believes. How could my friend be so hypocritical? So I told him that I can't take him serious anymore, because your words are just that...words. What's the point in giving advice or sharing a opinion with someone, who will appear to appreciate it in your face, but turn around an do the opposite with other friends? Right now he's really upset that I feel this way.
Should I forgive him or is he not worth it? I really want to forgive him...I really do. But how do I know he is sincere?! Gah!
As for me, I am currently having a problem with one particular close friend of mine. Ok so we were at my house yesterday having lunch and he was telling me about this girl he randomly gave his number to. She also added him on Facebook out of nowhere. Anyway, he asked me for my input. So I asked him questions like "do you know here last name?" "Do you know what school she went to?" "What was her past relationships like," you know questions like that. He said that he only spoke with her for like 5 minutes and he had no idea about her. He did she was cute and that he was considering having a little "fun" with her.
I told him he's dumb for even considering that. I never understood how guys simply jump into things like this, without knowing any kind of background about this girl. I basically explained to him that I think it's wrong, and not exactly the smartest thing to do. Now keep in mind this was only my opinion. I didn't care if he argued/disagreed with me. Its just that me personally, I'd prefer to get to know the girl before jumping into the intimate side. To my shock he goes on for about 10-15 minutes actually supporting my point. In a nutshell, he was saying I was right.
So then his phone rings and its one of his ace boys. I didn't know who this guy was, but he switched right up. My friend's speech changed, and body language changed. This wasn't a problem, because I understand we all act a little differently around certain people. But here is where things get heated. It caught my ear but he started saying stuff like "oh yeah I'm a get at this chick, see what she's like. I'm a show her a good time." The conversation was for about 10 minutes. This is where I got kind of irritated. Ten minutes before the call he was telling me how he believed in waiting for the right one and guys shouldn't treat girls like meat.He sounded so convincing sincere about his words. Then he totally says the opposite when talking with this dude, and he meant every word. I know he did. Also, the guy on the phone told my friend this girl has been around the block a few times, and he's still considering having a little "fun" with her. So stupid.
Here's my overall point, I don't care if your speech or body language changes from crowd to crowd. But in my eyes, the one thing that should remain the same, regardless of where you are, is your believes. How could my friend be so hypocritical? So I told him that I can't take him serious anymore, because your words are just that...words. What's the point in giving advice or sharing a opinion with someone, who will appear to appreciate it in your face, but turn around an do the opposite with other friends? Right now he's really upset that I feel this way.
Should I forgive him or is he not worth it? I really want to forgive him...I really do. But how do I know he is sincere?! Gah!